5 Breaking Up Pitfalls to Avoid
How often have you seen someone who has just broken up with their boyfriend or girlfriend turn into a couch potato? It´s completely normal to want to crawl under the covers and never come out again, but that doesn´t mean you should! In fact, there are a few things you should avoid doing after breaking up. Let´s take a look at 5 very common issues that people face when newly single.
1. Eating everything in sight.
This is not a good idea for several reasons. First of all, food can´t make you feel better. Scarfing all those sweets and carbs won´t fill the hole in your heart, but it will make you gain weight! Extra weight gain has the disadvantage of making you feel lousy about yourself, at a point when you are most vulnerable, causing the cycle of depression to continue. You´ll be much healthier and feel better after the fact if you stick to eating healthily. One tub of Tom and Jerry´s won´t affect much, so go ahead and indulge once, but downing the entire cookie aisle in one sitting probably isn´t a good idea.
2. Becoming a hermit.
After breaking up, often the last thing you want to do is go out with friends, but holing up in your room isn´t good for your mental health and certainly won´t help you win your ex back. Call up your best friend and set up a date. You need to get out of the house and away from the memories that it holds.
3. Hating your ex.
Ok, you probably have some angry feelings toward your ex, especially if you weren´t the one to break it off. But that doesn´t mean you should make them public. A little ranting with friends is one thing, but publishing a hate blog against your ex is another. These things have a way of coming back to haunt you and if you two should end up back together, it can be pretty hard to explain why their face is plastered all over the internet with the biohazard sign on top of it!
4. Chasing your ex.
You may desperately want to get back together, but the absolute worst way to do that is to go chasing after your ex. You need to step back and give him or her a little space. If there is any chance of reconciliation, you don´t want to blow it by suffocating them. Back off and give them some room and give yourself a chance to get back on your feet. Once you are feeling confident about yourself, you can start thinking about getting back together.
5. Blaming yourself.
Whatever ended your relationship, chances are it was the last straw in a long list of issues on both sides. Blaming yourself is usually pretty fruitless and you have to be careful that you don´t go overboard with it. Some people even manage to feel guilty because the other partner cheated on them! If you did something drastically wrong, you can certainly take the blame for that, but don´t go overboard. It will just make you feel worse and running after your ex and begging for forgiveness for things that weren´t even your fault just looks pathetic.
Breaking up is a lousy experience. You probably have little interest in getting out and about without the love of your life, but it can be done. Avoid these common mistakes that so many broken up singles end up making and you´ll already be ahead of the game.